How come that I have so much enthusiasm and energy (most of the time) to put together nice and stylish looks every day?
Guilt, blame, laziness, procrastination, comparisons – dump those bad habits as soon as you can to release the right positive attitude with putting an effort to your everyday look!
Sounds simple, but not so easy. You need to really want this change ladies for yourself first, before you can be your better self to your children, partner, friends etc. I had to make a decision one day to make an effort and forced myself every day with the new routine of looking good regardless of my mood or a pimple on my face. No lazy clothes for tired faces, no bad hair because I am too tired to wash them in the morning, no chipped nails because no one will notice (as they will!) and so on. ) Again, if you want to, you will always find excuses! But this is not a winning attitude and will never be.
So make this decision first. For example start from 1 week trial and promise to yourself that every day for the first week you will use your time, whether you have 15 mins or 2 hours in the morning to get ready and look good. If you know your mornings are manic with children then be proactive, prepare your outfit the night before. No laziness, force it girl! I did this and I got into amazing habit of doing it now automatically, without thinking. I have reprogrammed my mindset for RESULTS I wanted to achieve. Starting point is about thinking of those results, your GOAL.
If you don’t know why you would want to look good then this article is not for you. This is for a woman who knows how looking good makes her feel happier, more confident, aligned with who she is and empowered.
So, having a decision in mind will lead you to act towards it. Think of this as something you “promise” to yourself, as your new target and then act upon it. You may think about visualising how you would like to look every day in your current lifestyle. I am not telling you to visualise you glammed and dressed up if you need to be on a school run next day. Whatever is realistic. Your goal needs to be smart (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and timely).
- Set up a GOAL
- Visualise it
- Act upon it EVERY DAY
- Reality catches UP!
Let me give you an example to help you get started. Use present tense as if you had already reached your goal.
It is 1st June 2016 and I feel really good with my own personal style. I dress stylishly and effortlessly every day and feel confident and happy with my appearance.
I have a coordinated wardrobe with pieces that are easy to mix and match. The clothes fit me well, are comfy and suit my personality and busy lifestyle.
I review my wardrobe regularly before the start of each season, and then go shopping only for clothes and accessories I know will complement my existing clothes. I add some new inspiration pictures to my Pinterest Style Board every month to aid my creativity and evolve my style sense. I observe on a daily basis how clothes make me feel. I am mindful of my mood and every day put myself together to reflect it, who I am supposed to be that day and what I am doing that day. Every day I complement my outfit with nicely combed hair and make up. I tell people genuine compliments and say “thank you” whenever I receive any.
Every day I celebrate who I am and allow myself to have lazy days sometimes to maintain healthy and positive balance.
Girls, create your own specific goal, visualise it and act regularly to make it happen. There is really no further philosophy in this. It is totally normal to have moments of hindering, it is natural for any journey in life, including your style journey. Think about where you are now and what you would like to have instead.
If you need help and inspiration with making it happen book with me a FREE GOAL DISCOVERY SESSION.